Sorry not to have updated everyone sooner but I have been busy with other things. Then, very soon after posting my original question the car was sold. But your answers were really helpful and I'm grateful to all of you for your explanations to a non-technical guy like me - and all is not lost, as I have just found another one that is a year older, a 2006 IS250L, under 50k and FSH, but because of lockdown I've not been able to view. But again wheels are 18’s fitted with Kumho tyres: front are 225/40 (ZR18 92Y) Rear are: 255/35 (ZR18 94Y) all in good condition apparently.
So the question remains - if I want a quiet comfortable ride should I change down to 17’s all same size or keep existing 18 wheels but change tyres for different size and/or brand? Reading all these answers seems to suggest that with 18's I'll always need different size tyres front and rear, but with 17's I can fit same size front and rear?? Am I wrong? I’m no expert and may be chasing a wild goose around a pond here. Or should I just leave well alone?!