Ali, your consistent theme has been the need for reliability, so
Your 1st choice Ali is..............................................Lexus RX
Your 2nd choice Ali is ...........................................Lexus RX
and your 3rd choice has to be..............................Lexus RX.
If you came to see me in your capacity as a Consultant in an SUV vehicle which was either Audi, BMW,Merc or Volvo I would immediately form the view that I would not wish to receive any advice from you about anything from a guy who has selected a vehicle for so called status.
Now if you arrived in a Lexus RX, I would take the view that you have selected a vehicle that embraces all of your requirements in terms of minimising risk,maximising reliability, family protection and customer service. And we would get along like a house on fire.
Please do not think me cheeky or rude,but my advice is free to you for you to do as you wish.
Oh, and do not forget to seek advice from the Boss of your household as she holds the power of veto ! :):):)