My Mum Has Died

[derekyau]

Sincere condolences Tony. Its frustrating that its a ticking time bomb, with no way to stop it. 65 is quite a young age to go.

Wish you and your family and those around you the best to get through this sad event.

[aaronabbott]

im ever so sorry to hear this tony its the worst news and you never really want to believe it,i know how you feel though my mother passed away suddenly over a year and a half ago and it does get easier but you'll never forget..

chin up and onwards and upwards,its what she would have wanted

[Bazza]

[Anees]

I am so sorry to hear about your loss Tony............. condolences to you and your family. Nothing new I can add since it has all been said before, but time is a great healer.

If tears could build a stairway,

and memories were a lane,

I would walk right up to heaven

to bring you home again.

No farewell words were spoken

no time to say goodbye

you were gone before I knew it,

and only God knows why.

My heart still aches in sadness

and secret tears still flow,

what it meant to lose you,

no one will ever know.

[Mr Mole]

So sorry to hear this Tony.

Our thoughts are with you and your family.

[johnboy]

So sorry to hear of your loss, my condolences go to you and your family.

I know its been said, and im sure you know anyway, but you are among friends here, who are always willing to listen.

[Tony-Bones]

Thank you everyone for the kind words and the pm's.

My situation is something we will all go through.... it kin hurts!! but nevertheless it happens, my real scream is that cancer killed (murdered) her and that really hurts because it wasn't her time to go but cancer decided it's time to wrench mum away from us and i cannot punch that disease to vent my anger... i want to hit it

Cancer research offers some hope for others and i will support that passionately but for now?........ i'm so, so low and miss my mum.

[ROYT]

Previous posts say it all......so sorry.

[javadude]

Praying for you.

[MeMo]

so sorry to hear this tony :(

[Lexus2D]

So sorry for your sad loss i lost my nana 2 year ago & she was like my mum was the 1st time i ever lost someone close & the pain is awfull it does take time but will ease but u will never forget.

You left a place no one can fill

We miss u dearly & always will

Always true thoughtfull & Kind

Wounderfull memories you left behind

The words i had put on her stone

My other half lost his Dad Auntie & Uncle to cancer its so cruel his dad was 63 & his Auntie only 46

she may be gone from your eyes but will always be in your heart

Love to you & your family at this sad time xx

[Rob's Lexx]

Really sorry to hear the news Tony.My thoughts are with you and your family.

[84Stoney]

Mate, there is nothing I can say that is not already on this thread.

I really feel for you.

If tears could build a stairway,

and memories were a lane,

I would walk right up to heaven

to bring you home again.

No farewell words were spoken

no time to say goodbye

you were gone before I knew it,

and only God knows why.

My heart still aches in sadness

and secret tears still flow,

what it meant to lose you,

no one will ever know.

This poem brought back my own memories and I'm on the verge of crying now myself!

To think I was ****** off yesterday about smashing up my Lexus, really puts things in perspective doesn't it.

So sorry for your loss.

[SHAHZ]

Sorry to hear of your loss Tony, wish you and the family well in this difficult time

[aaronabbott]

this was read at my mothers funeral as it was her wish,it helped loads,i hope it does the same for you and your family

Do not stand at my grave and weep;

I am not there. I do not sleep.

I am a thousand winds that blow.

I am the diamond glints on snow.

I am the sunlight on ripened grain.

I am the gentle autumn rain.

When you awaken in the morning's hush

I am the swift uplifting rush

Of quiet birds in circled flight.

I am the soft stars that shine at night.

Do not stand at my grave and cry;

I am not there. I did not die.

[Steviewevie]

Please, please don't mourn for me

I'm still here, though you don't see.

I'm right by your side each night and day

and within your heart I long to stay.

My body is gone but I'm always near.

I'm everything you feel, see or hear.

My spirit is free, but I'll never depart

as long as you keep me alive in your heart.

I'll never wander out of your sight-

I'm the brightest star on a summer night.

I'll never be beyond your reach-

I'm the warm moist sand when you're at the beach.

I'm the colorful leaves when fall comes around

and the pure white snow that blankets the ground.

I'm the beautiful flowers of which you're so fond,

The clear cool water in a quiet pond.

I'm the first bright blossom you'll see in the spring,

The first warm raindrop that April will bring.

I'm the first ray of light when the sun starts to shine,

and you'll see that the face in the moon is mine.

When you start thinking there's no one to love you,

you can talk to me through the Lord above you.

I'll whisper my answer through the leaves on the trees,

and you'll feel my presence in the soft summer breeze.

I'm the hot salty tears that flow when you weep

and the beautiful dreams that come while you sleep.

I'm the smile you see on a baby's face.

Just look for me, friend, I'm everyplace!

[Tony-Bones]

I am incredibly priviladged to have such friends here offering support and best wishes... i tip my cap to you all and thank you from the bottom of my heart.

The poem's have really helped..... Actually i cried like a baby and i really needed that emotional valve opened, i must read like a right soppy sod but losing your one and only mum is something no one can prepare for.

[Arqum]

Sorry for your loss mate. My thoughts are with you and your family.

[janey]

So sorry to hear the sad news Tony

Nothing can prepare us in losing a loved one I'm just glad we can all be here to hopefully help you through this tough time, and I doubt very much there are many dry eyes after reading through this thread and the poems so you're definately not alone.

[Rich OB]

We have never met or crossed paths, but i always read your threads and your help to others goes beyond the norm.

I'm very sorry for your loss Tony may your mother rest in peace and over time i hope your sorrow heals.

[Lexus2D]

I am incredibly priviladged to have such friends here offering support and best wishes... i tip my cap to you all and thank you from the bottom of my heart.

The poem's have really helped..... Actually i cried like a baby and i really needed that emotional valve opened, i must read like a right soppy sod but losing your one and only mum is something no one can prepare for.

Its good that you can cry better to let it out than bottle it up

[zaph]

Having lost my Mum 13 years ago when she was 70, and I was just 32 - having been a full time carer to her for 4 years, after my Dad died aged 74, I can empathise with you somewhat.

Thoughts are with you and all those affected by your loss.

As a counsellor, I can offer the following.

Have a damn good cry - you are allowed to.

Don't apologise or feel guilty for doing so.

Cry again.

Write down the bad times, and then tear the paper up and throw it away. That will get rid of the negatives, and stop you festering on them.

Concentrate on the good times, and cherish them.

Time heals, but slowly

Remember you are as much a part of your loved ones, as they were of you, and so, in that respect they live on.

Hope this helps, a little.

[DJ Wozza]

Concentrate on the good times, and cherish them.

Time heals, but slowly

good shout fella, lost my Dad way back in 1987 when I was 18

All the while I (and others who's lives he touched) think of him, he isn't gone.

[reganlives]

so sorry to hear such sad news tony. we've never met as i'm a newish member to the club but having heard so much about u i know how treasured u are. my thoughts are with you and your family and hope that somehow you are able to make it through this period of sadness.

[Andy-R]

Sorry to hear this Tony, can't say I can even begin to know what your going through but I do have some idea having lost loved ones to this horrid disease, if more people supported cancer research as myself and my family do then maybe one day people wouldn't have to go through this.

Regards Andy.